For most of my 20s, I had a very poor relationship with myself. I always strived for external satisfaction, while my internal dialogue was judgmental, judgmental, and negative. I never felt I was good or worthy enough. The truth is, I didn’t even know who I was under all the layers of guilt, expectation, and anxiety that had built up around me.
many of us go through life disconnected from our inner self, looking for something else (or someone else) to complete us. when we take our awareness deeper, we begin to feel supported, guided and at peace. Like any relationship, the one we have with ourselves takes time and commitment to build.
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Cultivating a healthy relationship with yourself often takes a lifetime to master. Although we often speak to ourselves negatively and critically, you will benefit more from quiet encouragement and a positive approach. meditation helped me find focus and a more positive outlook. When I signed up for this free 30-day meditation challenge, it was like a gift to me. It gave me the space and time I needed to sink into stillness and become more aware.
Today, I’m sharing 10 ways to help you connect with yourself on a deeper level.
1. check in with yourself regularly.
How often do you communicate with yourself? Start by asking yourself a simple question: how am I feeling right now? then write down your answer. tune in to your body and notice what it is telling you. pay attention to that flutter in your chest or belly.
2. find the silence.
We live in a world filled with information, noise, and demands on our time and attention. when we jump off the merry-go-round for a while and stay silent, we tune in to our deepest selves.
try to take just five minutes every morning or night to sit quietly and just be present. you don’t need to worry about emptying all thoughts from your head; instead, simply notice the thoughts, let them go, and return to your center.
3. focus on your breath.
You can do this anywhere and anytime, so it’s a great way to connect with yourself throughout the day. focusing on your breath helps you ground yourself and dive deeper into your inner self.
simply focus on your breath, bringing your attention to it. then follow it as you inhale and exhale. feel your chest rise as it fills you, following it down to your belly and out again. repeat as long as you think necessary.
4. feel all the feelings.
When times get tough, we often insist and cover up how we feel in an attempt to keep things together. by doing so, we disconnect from our inner being since all our feelings and emotions are there to tell us something.
allow yourself to feel all the feelings. have the courage to sit down with difficult or uncomfortable emotions and fears. be compassionate with yourself and tune into your breath to stay grounded.
5. try automatic typing.
automatic writing is a great way to tap into your inner wisdom and deepen your connection with yourself. Take a notebook or journal and start by asking yourself a question like, “what do I need to know today?” listen to the answer and write it down.
The trick is not to think too much about what you’re writing, but to let your pen flow across the page without editing, judging, or feeling guilty. this is a great tool when we feel stuck, as we often already have all the answers we need; we just have to discover them.
6. create a morning ritual.
Make time each morning before you start your day to sit down and tune in to yourself. Even if all you can find is five minutes, make it a regular practice to check in each morning and spend time doing something that feeds your soul.
You may want to set an intention for the day, spend time in meditation, break up your journal, or repeat positive affirmations. Whatever works for you and no matter how much time you have, make it a daily practice to deepen your connection with yourself.
7. become aware of your thoughts.
The things we focus on are the things that become our reality, so start being aware of your thoughts. notice where fear or self-criticism arises. don’t judge these thoughts, but consciously choose to let them go or reframe them in a new perspective. when we are able to do this, we are more equipped to manifest the things we truly desire.
8. move your body.
See movement and exercise as a form of self-love rather than a chore. listen to what your body needs and flow with it instead of forcing yourself to do something that feels like a chore.
Take a walk in nature, dance around your kitchen, go for a run, go to a class, or hit your yoga mat. choose to do what feels expansive and freeing for your body. really feel what it is like to move and stretch your body, anchoring yourself in whatever sensation arises for you.
9. do more of what makes you happy.
what really makes your heart sing? What enlightens you may be painting or being creative. maybe you love preparing a nutritious meal for yourself and your family or getting out in nature. whatever you love to do, do it more often. Where can you make room in your schedule for these activities? What can you cross off your to-do list to allow yourself to tune in to your inner joy?
start each day by greeting yourself in the mirror. take the time to connect by looking into your own eyes. smile to yourself and feel your vibration rise. You could even say a positive affirmation or mantra out loud in front of the mirror. acknowledge your own presence before going about your day.
These small daily actions help us deepen our connection with ourselves. They help us stand firm, gain confidence and live aligned with what we really want.
What mantras or daily routines keep you connected to your true passions? share in the comments section below.