Tips for how to connect with your tarot cards for the first time or if you’ve had your deck for years.
Whether you haven’t picked up your deck in a while, felt hesitant about doing a read for yourself, feel “bumpy” with the reads you’ve been doing, or just bought a new deck, going online or reconnecting to your platform can be an effective practice.
For tips on choosing your deck, see: Tarot Reading for Beginners: How to Start Reading Tarot for Yourself.
Connecting with your tarot deck is an important part of being a good reader. but like any good relationship, you have to pay attention, care and time.
how do i know if i shouldn’t work with a deck or just need to reconnect?
short answer: you probably have a feeling about it.
If you feel bad about a deck or if you don’t quite know how to generate a good read with it, it’s either a.) your connection to the deck needs to be strengthened or b.) it may not be the right one for you at this point. moment.
If you feel like you don’t relate to your tarot deck or don’t seem to speak the same language, you and your deck may not be meant to be in a serious relationship. this does not mean that you are not destined to be a reader (there is a deck for you if you want to learn, trust!).
but there’s also a good chance that you just need to spend a little time and effort to develop the connection. especially if you were drawn to your deck to begin with.
some decks you can use for some things and not others. chances are you’ll find a core deck that you do most of your magic with, but that you can call on others for support, clarification, or amusement. I love collecting playing cards, after all they are beautiful works of art! and I love looking at them when I want to mix things up or I’m doing a specific type of reading, but I do all my professional readings and teach on my original ride or die platform.
All this is to say that it’s great to experiment with decks and try a lot. To choose your first deck, do some research, look at the pictures, and pick the one that catches your eye.
here are a few different steps to reconnect to your deck. I lay them out in the order I would, but feel free to follow your intuition and make this practice your own.
How to connect with your tarot cards
step 1: clean your deck.
You can do this in several ways: with holy smoke, crystals, the moon, salt, or shuffling. read more about cleaning your deck here.
step 2: set an intention.
hold your cards in your hands and take a few moments to breathe. then consider what intention you would like to set for your practice with them. It can be a word, a phrase or a feeling. This may be a time when you call on any guide or spirit you like to work with to assist you or open your channel to divine guidance that is in your highest and best interest.
step 3: mix well.
shuffling is a way of clearing the energy within the deck. it also spawns the random system that funnels the guidance we seek from the deck. the randomness that the shuffling generates is precisely the reason why we can access a whole new perspective from the cards: we are breaking with pure rationality and leaning into the unknown. read: how to shuffle tarot cards.
step 4: make a connection extension.
Spend some time doing a tarot spread that specifically addresses your deck: to feel with each other, gain new insights, and, yes, connect.
know the spread of your tarot deck
- what do you want me to know about you?
- your strengths?
- its limitations?
- what kind of relationship can we have together?
- what work are we meant to do together?
- which card can be my teacher right now?
- How can I go deeper with this card?
Step 5: Decide how you want to store your deck.
create a ritual to save your deck. you can have a box that you keep it in, a special scarf that you wrap it in, a crystal that you put on top of it, or an altar that you put it on when you’re not using it. Deciding on this little routine is a way of caring for, acknowledging, and thanking your deck at the end of each session or day.
additional tarot linking exercises:
the big picture. lay out the deck starting with major arcana numbers 0-22 in lines of 7 cards side by side. then lay out the cards from ace to king for each suit in this order: wands, cups, spades, pentacles. Look at the deck this way and really take it in. then mix it all up and shuffle well.
choose a guide. select a card based on its known appearance and/or meaning to be your guide and anchor to connect with your deck and intuition. write in a journal with this card and all the ideas, feelings and questions that come to you. meditate with her. notice how it comes up both in your tarot practice and in your daily life (write these findings in a journal too!). place this card on your altar when you are not working with your deck. you can do this for a week or a lunar cycle and then choose another.
Sleep with your deck under your pillow. If you can make it comfortable, you can connect with the cards in your unconscious time.
And remember, building a relationship and connection with your deck takes time. And like any relationship, it changes over time as you grow and learn.
more information about tarot reading:
- resources to learn to read the tarot
- free download: 44 questions to ask the tarot
- how does the tarot work?
- tarot books & resources
- tarot reading for beginners
- how to clean your tarot cards
- free 3-day enhanced intuition challenge
- tarot basics tarot: a course to read in a more intuitive and connected way
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